Jul 31, 2010

The Faith Club, Chapters 12 & 13

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Sorry people, I'd been counting down the days until vacation, and spent much of my time preparing rather than reading *gasp* -- now that things are mostly done (we're not going anywhere, just staying home and not working for a week) -- I think I can get back to reading.  I really hope to, because we're only half way through this horrible book, I still hate it, and I still hate the characters.

Chapter 12 talked about Mortality.  And once again, Ranya's lack of knowledge about her faith astounds me.  On page 181, she says, "Is there a soul?  I want to hang onto the idea that there is one so badly."  Perhaps if Ranya did a little more than HOLD her Quran (like, perhaps reading the thing) -- she'd know that God talks a LOT about the soul.  I'm assuming if God, who created us and all that we see (and all that we don't) has said that there is a soul, then there is a soul.  I certainly believe that we have souls...a body is just a body...the soul is what (I believe) makes us who we essentially are.

I was shocked to know that Jews have no afterlife.  I had no idea!  So what is to prevent one from doing bad things (I mean, weren't the 10 commandments sent to the Jews??) -- what's to stop one from breaking a commandment if there is no reward/punishment??  Do I have Jewish followers?  Can someone explain this one to me??

Oh...and as an aside -- I really find their little "conversations" that they have interspersed through the chapters corny.  Who talks like that??

All in all, chapter 12 talks about mortality.  I think it's foolish to say that one isn't afraid of death...it's such a big unknown...however, I think that we can be prepared for our eventual death...in my case by doing good deeds, following (what I believe) to be the wishes of God, and staying away from evil.  Death still scares me, yes...and I certainly would like to stay as far away from it as I can, but in the end (no pun intended) it's the one thing that you can't escape!

Chapter 13 -- I was glad to see that Suzanne finally had some doubt (that sounds horrible, but I'll explain).  All this time, she has been like that girl in school, Perfect, Pretty, Smart, and well liked...and then one day that girl walks into school with a giant zit on her face and you just think "Yes!  She's human!!"  That was me reaction when I read about Suzanne's doubt.

I think that faith is sometimes strengthened with doubt...after all, faith is a belief in something that is "unprovable."  For someone who's scientifically minded, like me, it's a giant step to believe in something that you cannot find solid proof of.

There were just a few notes that I made in this chapter...on page 204, Suzanne was talking about an author (Pagels) who "called into question the divinity of Jesus, saying that only John calls Jesus the Son of God.  The other gospel authors simply use the term 'Messiah,' which means 'of God,' and could refer to a prophet."  This is something that I didn't know, and I find very interesting!

Another interesting thing (on the same page) was when Suzanne wrote, "I had found myself wanting to discard beliefs that wouldn't please Ranya and Priscilla."  All I can say to this is WHY?  Why do you need to discard your beliefs to please others?  How is it an interfaith dialogue if you don't talk about things that may make others uncomfortable??

Then Ranya, not surprisingly, whines some more.  Whines about Ramadan and not being able to fast in it because she was lonely.  Oh...boo hoo...  Life is what you make of it sweetheart.  Stop being a victim and suck it up.  Deal with it!  Find a way!  Try fasting with your kids (they certainly don't have to fast all day, but they can for a couple of hours) -- I just have no tolerance for her outlook on her poor American Muslim life. Nothing more than excuses, in my opinion!

She only stops whining when she finds an Imam who allows her to carry out beliefs and rituals that have nothing to do with Islam (and are strictly forbidden, I must say -- for example, Easter baskets, Christmas trees??  Your teaching your kids to believe in something (the divinity of God) that is stressed as an absolute wrongness in that Quran she carries around in her purse.  It's kinda like my thoughts on the McDonald's thing -- sure, you're not teaching that to the kids, but that's what they are getting out of it.

I think that I have a more unique outlook on this...you see, as a convert, my family is NOT Muslim...so my kids get baggies of chocolates and junk from my mom at Easter; but my mom just tells them "Oh, I got you some chocolate."  Her other grandchildren get Easter baskets, my kids (who visit at a separate time) get little goody bags.  The same thing happens at Christmas.  This is a sore spot for me, but it's really the only time that all of my family gets together.  So, we gather, the kids get gifts and we eat dinner....we don't sing Christmas songs, and we don't have a visit from Santa.  My house is not decorated in Christmas stuff  -- and there is always a discussion about how Grandma is a Christian and this is her holiday but we are Muslims and we celebrate Eid.  I have had people tell me it's wrong, but I won't cut out my family to please others.

Anyhoo -- back to the book.  One page 212, her new Imam says, "Those parts [of the Quran] you don't understand should not inhibit you from embracing others."  I love this.  I have read my Quran time and time again, and every time I read it, it can have a different meaning to me...depending on where I am in my life and feelings at that moment.  He also says, "to engage in the five pillars [prayer, charity, fasting, hajj, and belief in the oneness of God] without faith is nothing." Again, I agree...without faith, these are merely actions and not pure intentional deeds.

Okay, that's all I have for this part...what are your thoughts??


Jul 29, 2010

It's that time again...

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Yes, it's time again for another post about my mom and her awesomeness. I love my mom (and you'll see I mention that clearly in the last "I love my mom" post)

Okay -- so this time, my mom took my kids for the weekend again -- back to the camping spot - but this time, there were no cat tails to bring home and no freak outs over fuzzies in the bathroom.

Nope, she decided to give me a present for finishing school (well, I'm almost done, it counts!!) -- she bought me pyjamas -- Dr. Seuss pajamas to be precise.  I am in love with the good doctor.  Yup, I have a secret little fantasy of the cat in the hat visiting me.  I have dreams of Seussical proportions...yes...I'm odd, but can you imagine that?  I dream in Dr. Seuss!!!  My phone message, for goodness sake, is inspired by Seuss...

So, the pj's were lovely.  I planned on actually wearing the top as a shirt (it's just a v neck t-shirt) and perhaps giving the boxer shorts to my son/daughter.

Yesterday, I pull the thing out of the bag, rip the tag off in elation and....squeeze myself into it.

I wonder if I'm getting fatter or if fashions are getting slimmer.  Oh well, I'm happily wearing my "One fish, Two fish" shirt and as long as I don't breath, I'm okay, right??

Later in the night, I go to show my husband the cute little outfit mom got me.  I  tried to put on the boxers that came with it.  Did you read that right?  I tried.  I could barely pull them up over my hips (yes, I have what my aunt calls "birthing hips" but still -- these were TIGHT!) They were so tight that they ended up turning into what most might call "booty shorts" -- I was scared to pass gas, I thought I might injure myself!

Hubby, very smartly, says not a word.

I peel the pants off and dig through my garbage can for the tag.

Size SMALL.

Now -- I'd like to think that my mom thinks that I'm that small....but a part of me knows that my mother is well aware that I'm not.  I'm lucky, extremely lucky if I can get away with a medium (especially over those birthing hips!) and usually buy a large to feel comfortable.  But a SMALL??  Really, mom??

I'm guessing that mom was so excited about buying me Seuss jammies that she just dug through until she found a pair that she thought I'd like and didn't even look at the tag.  That's it, right mom??  Because if she bought me these things to inspire me to get back on the Shred Bandwagon -- well...that worked, too.


Delusional Mom has been given the Versatile Blogger Award

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Today, Random Thoughts of a Delusional Mom has been given the The Versatile Blogger Award from NanLT over at Nan's Squidoo Spotlight. I have to say, I love winning awards...and this was pretty cool, as I've never gotten a bloggy award from someone that I don't "know".


In order to receive the award fully, I must


1) Thank the person who gave me the award. Thank You, NanLT. I am honoured to teach a little about Islam and humbled to receive and award for my rantings!
2) Share seven things about myself.
3) Nominate 15 newly discovered blogs, and let the nominees know about the award.


Seven things about Hethr that you may or may not know.
  1. I am a high school drop out who is able to maintain a perfect GPA in college (so far)
  2. I have a 14 year old daughter that I gave up for adoption (see above) whom I am both terrified and excited to "meet"
  3. I have an unfounded fear of parallel parking.
  4. I knit, crochet and do cross stitch (when I can find the time) - and love every second of it.
  5. I worked for my husband for almost a year...quit and went back to get my GED (which I still didn't) I knew I would marry my husband within 5 minutes of sitting down with him when I asked him to write me a reference letter for another job.
  6. I was right about the marriage, just 3 months after that fateful coffee.
  7. I fear that I will fail in my attempts at further education - it's what drives me to my perfection, yet it's a fight that I have daily with myself - to continue or just quit while everything is all good.

Now it's time for the most important part of the award. I am pleased to nominate all the blogs below because they are inspiring, creative, beautiful, resilient, sincere, and are written by some amazing people. There are so many great blogs but I chose...

Hmmm...that's all that I can nominate right now -- I will add more as I find them, but the other bloggers on my list haven't updated in a LONG time or, are super mega bloggies that would laugh in my face for offering a bloggy award.  :(


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